Free from Offenses
In the beginning of this year, I read the book, The Bait of Satan (Living Free
From the Deadly Trap of Offense) by John Bevere. It's one of the most powerful books I've read.
Best For: People that may be experiencing a wall in
their relationship with God and not sure why; people that want to know how to
deal with people and past situations that have offended them; people that want
to develop healthy, loving relationships; people that want to grow in their
walk with God
Overview: John Bevere shares how offenses are the
breeding ground for the enemy. They entrap us. John powerfully reveals the
truth of God in regards to offenses. He exposes how we fall in to this trap and
also offers hope in how to avoid it. His last chapter focuses on the objective of
reconciliation. We must deal with our offenses in order to move forward in our
relationship with God and to have healthy, strong relationships with others.
The book conveys John’s personal stories, those of others, and how God
helped them release their offenses to God. As a result, great things happened
in their lives. Every chapter has a testimony
of how God used this book to help someone deal with a heart of unforgiveness. There
is a thirty day devotional at the back of the book
as well as a thirty minute DVD sermon by the author.
Some of John Bevere’s points in the book are:
- · What is an offense?
- · The consequences of holding onto offenses
- How an offense leads to betrayal
- · Dealing with offenses that come from our father and father figures
- · The power of being rooted in the Word of God
- Reconciliation is our goal
- · How trials in life serve to expose our hearts and either lead to our growth or bitterness
Few Quotes:
“The truth remains: Only those you care about can hurt
you. You expect more from them-after
all, you’ve given more of yourself to them. The higher the expectations, the
greater the fall.”
“A believer who chooses to delight in the Word of God in the
midst of adversity will avoid being offended. That person will be like a tree
whose roots search deep to where the Spirit provides strength and nourishment. He
will draw from the well of God deep within his spirit. This will mature him to
the point where adversity will now be the catalyst for fruit.”
“One way the enemy
keeps a person in an offended state is to keep the offense hidden, cloaked with
pride.”
“I often say that trials and tests locate a person. In other words, they determine where you are
spiritually. They reveal the true condition of your heart. How you react under
pressure is how the real you reacts.”
“It is unrighteous
for us as children of God to avenge ourselves. But that is exactly what we are
seeking when we refuse to forgive. We desire, seek, plan, and carry out
revenge. We will not forgive until the debt is paid in full, and only we can
determine the acceptable compensation. When we seek to correct the wrong done
to us, we set ourselves up as judges.”
My Application:
I was reading this book and feeling pretty good about myself. No one was coming
to mind that I was offended at. I was feeling pretty happy. Yes, I can get
through this without having to deal with my heart. HA! That’s what I thought! When I read, I usually write down quotes and
thoughts that stand out to me in a journal. After the page where I had
taken some notes, I flipped it over in my journal, and I had written about the
breakthrough that God gave me in an anger issue! The whole time I was
reading the book, God was trying to soften the soil of my heart in order to
expose the deeper issue. I thank God He did.
My breakthrough?
Well, one day I was seething in anger over things that
people close to me were not doing that they should be doing, or things that
people were doing that they should not be doing. I was angry at myself for feeling
anger towards people and circumstances, as well as feeling powerless to change
myself. I could not take it! So many things were bothering me. It
built up, and I began to write down
everything that I was angry about. My list came to 17 things in a matter of
minutes! I wanted to be free from this bondage of anger and felt so powerless
to get a breakthrough in it. I didn’t want
to live with all these things tormenting me. I wanted to be a free, joyful
person again.
I prayed that God would help me. I called my pastor, who is
also my father-in-law, and talked to him about this. I didn’t read him my
list; I didn’t need to. He said something that rocked my world.
He said, “Usually we are angry
at people because we do those very same things ourselves!”
I knew that God wanted me to go down my list and repent of
being angry at each issue I had written down on paper. But, after repenting
for being angry with each one, I prayed that God would forgive me for having
that same issue in my heart. For example, I prayed that God would forgive me
for being angry for people not wanting God in their life. And then I repented
for not wanting God in my life. Yes, there are times in my life where I feel tempted
to want my own way and not God’s way.
This set me free from being angry with people and situations
I was in. It did something powerful as well. God was able to give me compassion
for each person and situation. It helped me to see that I am not perfect. I am
a sinner. I need Jesus. I am messed up too. I need God’s forgiveness, grace and
mercy.
In the book, John talks about being the “judge” over people
when we are angry. I learned that I am not a good judge, and God does a much better
job at it. I had to release people to God so that He could move in their life. It
gave me compassion for these people. I
agree with John Bevere when he said, “A person who cannot forgive has forgotten
the great debt for which they were forgiven. When you realize that Jesus
delivered you from eternal death and torment, you will release others unconditionally.”
My Thoughts:
John Bevere’s book is the best one I have ever read on the topic of anger and
offenses. Hearing all the personal
stories and testimonies brought so much hope to me. If God could help that
person, surely He can help me if I allow Him to. John’s message could be summed
up when he said, “…forgive as God does, without limits.” In conclusion, he summarized
3 steps to healing:
1) Recognize I’m hurt/offended.
2) Pray for the person that offended you.
3) Pray things for them you want God to do for YOU.
I pray you will get a copy of this book and read it. I believe
this is one of THE MOST important books you
could ever read. It will change your thinking. It will change your life. It
changed mine.
Kathy this is sooo good. I know I have been the judge many times and not a good one. I love your example from your own life! It really made the review powerful and personal. I have read the book and watch the video, why the heck am I still having such a hard time applying it:/ Well this was really inspiring and encouraging, thank you.
ReplyDeleteInteresting - I have never heard of John Bevere. I might have to add this to my ever growing list of to reads. Thanks for the review
ReplyDeleteKathy, THank you for sharing today. There are so many books I want to read. And I want to thank you for your servants heart.
ReplyDeleteHi Kathy, I love to read too, but I don't do it nearly as much as I'd like...usually the homeschool books call me and I don't get time for the other books. When do you get time to read? Just curious?
ReplyDeleteGreat question, Sue! I'm glad you asked me. I try and read when I can. Usually, it's early in the morning or before I go to bed. Sometimes I read Sunday afternoons while most of my family is napping :)
DeleteThis was a good book, I read it a few years ago after we left our church due to some very controlling and bad situations. It helped me so much.
ReplyDeleteThis book had been recommended to me a few months back as being a great book. Thank you for your review...it sounds just wonderful!
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